SOCIAL LOVE

SOCial love

Everyone wants to be like Hov and Bey…

or Michelle and Barack, I think to myself while scrolling down my Instagram timeline. Social networking sites are becoming more and more saturated with so-called social “Power Couples” who immolate the very entertainers who grace the pages of People Magazine, Vogue, Allure, etc. 

Is being a social “Power Co  uple” as easy as finding that “Ride-or-Die” gal or guy, dressing up, and hitting the town for some high resolution cell phone pics? 

Lets explore several provocative questions to open up this Facebook status-worthy discussion of this generation’s “selfie” taking, “Turn Up”, “Turn down for what” generation and how social networking impacts our relationships. 

Can two ordinary people be a Power Couple?

power couple

A couple who seems to have a fairy tale romance. Also, both parties involved in the power couple have tremendous influence over people around them because of their devastating good looks* and seemingly perfect relationship with their significant other.

The very possibility exist for two fairly ordinary people to promote such a lifestyle, however be aware that the very people we influence will also be our most honest critics. The strain of constant scrutiny on anything can be emotionally draining and cause two ordinary people to result to a more private love life or even go their separate ways.

How can you deal with the “fans”?

Just like any celebrity who is in the public eye, you and your significant other will have “fans”. These are people who will admire you from a distance with often nothing more than admiration for your post or pictures. This admiration can be expressed through picture liking, status comm   ents, emoticon kisses, words like “boo” or “babe”, etc. In an insecure relationship this type of behavior can be viewed as inappropriate. The best way for two people who have highly publicized their relationship to deal with such a thing is to be open and honest to his/her audience and the rest will take care of itself.

Have we been reduced to trying to date and present ourselves much like celebrities? 

Celebrities are celebrities for a reason. They are often high profile people who can afford to take risk in their professional and personal lives in the eye of their public. Some risk include publicizing their love life for reasons ranging from a fling, true love, to just “good ole PR”. As ordinary people sometimes this risk is much too expensive for our daily “emotional budget”. 

Are we secure enough that we don’t have to show the entire world every fifteen minutes of your relationship and its most intimate moments? 

We often play the role of public relations specialist in our own relationship attempting to make sure our relationship brand is strong in the community. We publicize fruitful images of our relationship on our timeline more often not for our own enjoyment but for the validation of others. The very minute the relationship turns sour we often lash out at the other person publicly taking jabs on the offensive. More times than not, much like a celebrity would, we back track and retract our words to salvage what’s left of our feeble relationship.

Has social networking sites taken the quality of relationships from Bankhead to Buckhead or vice versa?

At the end of the day Social networking sites were originally designed to give us all access to former classmates, long lost loves, business clients, etc, so in this regards they have been a very helpful tool. In reverse it can also be a “Big brother” tool for the insecure at heart. Just like fire it can either cook for us or burn our house down. Don’t allow this tool to burn down your House of Love. - FIN

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